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Welcome to Unspeakable, a true crime podcast. Or I tell
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stories of real crimes with real victims whose cases are
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so shocking that many are left wondering how is this
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even real? I use my experiences in law enforcement corrections,
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and combined with my years as a criminal justice educator,
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dig deep into complex cases of evil acts, some so
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evil many feel they are unspeakable. Warning. Unspeakable as intended
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for mature audiences. If you are easily offended, then I'm
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not your girl. Listening discretion is advised. Hey y'all, kJ
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you're back for another episode of Unspeakable. How's it going?
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It better be going good. I know it's going good
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for a couple of people because I'm about to give
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him a shout out. I know. I'm gonna start in Reno,
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Nevada with Miss Nicole Dean. Hi, Nicole, thank you so much.
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I'm so thankful to have you part of my team,
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as well as Deborah Dunne. And then right here in
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Port Vincent, Mandy templay, how are you doing, Mandy, Glad
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to have you. I've got miss Senda Snyder. I hope
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I said that right, Miss Senda Senda Snyder. And then
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in Summitville, Indiana. Jessica Markham, Hey, Jessica, how are you?
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I've got now this name. I hope I don't mispronounce it,
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and I'm based in the way I pronounced it off
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of a student that I teach. But I'm gonna say
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Andy Bull or is it Bule? I think it's Bull?
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How are you doing? Andy? I'm so thankful to have
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you join. Either way, I hope I didn't slaughter your name,
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but I'm thankful to have you. And then last, but
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not least, all the way from Massachusetts is miss Renee Hibbard. Hey, Renee,
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thank you so much for joining. And as always, I
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appreciate everyone who's supporting my podcast. It's making my dreams
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come true and I'm getting to make big changes here
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real soon and we'll be getting more content out to you.
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So thanks a bunch. Now, today's episode is because again,
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we got a lot of people on TikTok that are
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following this trend of the Menendez brothers, and so I
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thought I would just jump on the bandwagon because I
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have something to say and if Kim Kardashian can give
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her dumbass opinion, then I can give mine. So that's
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what today is going to be all about So we're
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going to take it back to nineteen eighty nine for
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this one. And like I said, it's it's just so
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popular right now. It's kind of crazy that's come back up.
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But TikTok is making moves for people, and they're no different. Now.
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I don't really plan to go over every single solitary
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detail of the Menindez case because I think most people
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at this point have the gist of the story, but
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I will jump into the case a good bit in
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case you don't. But before everything that's been claimed and
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said in this case, I think that there's been some
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major concepts that have been brushed, you know, under the
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rug or overlooked, especially on this TikTok bandwagon, and so
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I intend to kind of go over a few things
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I think that have been missed. And as we know,
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when TikTok users get involved, they can cause mass social
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quote unquote awareness on situations, but that awareness isn't always
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well rounded, and I think that's pretty much the case
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here as well. Now, like I said, it's gonna be
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about the Menindez brothers, and we know that Lyle was
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the older of the two brothers at twenty one years old,
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and Eric the younger at age eighteen, and both of
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them were the products of a marriage that resulted in
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great wealth. Now, they weren't born straight into a wealthy family.
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Their parents grew this wealth and they became wealthy throughout
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their childhood, or they didn't their parents did, but you know,
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throughout their childhood and then to their early adult life.
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Their parents' names were Jose and Kitty Menendez. And the
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reality was that Jose came to the United States as
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an immigrant. He was originally from Cuba, and he moved
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to the US and moved in with some relatives in
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Pennsylvania to try to start his life here. As a
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young man, he attended college at Southern Illinois University, where
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he was a popular swimmer, and he was actually so
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good that he was there on scholarship. And he was
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a successful and driven young man, to say the least.
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He was special. He wanted to be successful in the
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land of opportunity, and from all outward appearances, he was
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doing just that. His wife to be Her name was Kitty,
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or she was called Kitty as her nickname. She came
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from a divorced family which that divorce happened whenever she
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was very young, and it really did affect her substantially
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in her lifetime. She was the youngest of four kids
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and they came up in this middle class home and
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from all accounts that I read, her father was abusive
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to her and her mom and to her siblings. Although
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he was abusive, he was still her dad, and when
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he left, she didn't do too well with that. She
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wanted to have her father in her life and as
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a result of that, it left her feeling really withdrawn
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and just really sad that the family unit had broken up.
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This would result in it being difficult for her to make,
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you know, friends, She just kind of struggled, and she
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would hold resentment towards her dad and just really wasn't
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in a good way. But with time and space and maturity,
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Kitty grew into her own with dreams of one day
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busting out and becoming an actress. She too, would eventually
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enroll in college at Southern Illinois University with a focus
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in communications. Makes sense, right, you want to be able
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to have all the specialty of communicating with others, especially
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if you want to build this huge action career. It
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was on that campus where Jose first laid eyes on
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Mary Louise Kitty Anderson in a philosophy class that they
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took together. And Kitty at that time was thought of
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as a stunningly beautiful woman both inside and out, which
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made her an absolute ten. She was a catch all.
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Accounts say that she really was someone that you know
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for Jose to get her attention, he was winning by
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having her so pretty. In fact, she won Miss Oaklawn
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beauty pageant in nineteen sixty two. Now, Miss Kitty also
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had a rebellious side, which I personally love. I think
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she had a little spice to her. She loved the
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arts and performing and she really grew to put herself
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out there, which was huge considering where she had started from.
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Jose won her over rather quickly and the two became
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absolutely inseparable. Kitty seemed, y'all to really have it going on.
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She was a pretty woman, and then she meets Jose
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and she is happy to be by her man's side
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and to be hooked on his arm. They would go
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on shortly thereafter to get married. They got married on
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July eighth of nineteen sixty three, and then they would
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eventually move to New York City. Jose then started to
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attend another college, Queen's College, and would earn degrees in
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economics and accounting. So Kitty, meanwhile, she was a vivacious
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and energetic woman, but five years would pass in this
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marriage and then she would start having babies. They were
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building their family, and so she kind of went from
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this vivacious, young, you know, vibrant woman with dreams of
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being an actress, to really shifting herself into that mother
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role and it was no longer about her. It was
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about her children. Her children being Joseph Lyle who was
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born in January of nineteen sixty eight, and then soon
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followed Eric, who was born in November of no nineteen seventy.
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So when all of the boys were born, Kitty was
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working as a school teacher at the time. But once
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those kids were born, jose really started impressing upon her
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that he wanted her to stay home and raise the children.
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He thought that her role was in the house and
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mothering the kids, and don't worry about it. I've got
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us financially. You come home and you be the mother
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to our children. Something that was a recurrent theme even
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according to her sons, by the way, was that men
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ran the house in their world, and the men were
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everything in their family culture. Kitty loved Jose and she
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was willing to do what her husband wanted of her.
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And I would bet she also wanted to be home
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with her baby boys too. But there's sacrifice that comes
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with being a mother, unless you're Casey Anthony, of course,
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but there's sacrifice. And I think she looked at motherhood
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and said, this is what I've got to do. They
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are now my primary role. So the family really planted
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their roots near Princeton, New Jersey, and she just doated
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on Lyle and Eric while they were there. They even
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attended private school. Specifically, the name of the school was
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Princeton Day School, and so I was kind of curious
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about the school, so I looked it up and to
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that point, the tuition of this school ranges from thirty
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eight thousand to forty eight thousand dollars per child. Can
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you freaking imagine. So my point was that both Jose
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and Kitty were invested in their children and they wanted
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them to experience the best, no matter the cost. Even
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Kitty's own brother, his name was Brian. Even Kitty's own brother,
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said that she spoiled her boys while Jose worked and traveled.
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She was their rock. She raised them and she loved them.
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As the kids grew, so did Jose's income, and he
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rose ranks quickly in the business world, and this would
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result in job changes and the family would have to relocate,
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and eventually that would find them in Calabasas, California. This
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was around nineteen eighty six. Because Jose was proving himself
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a very successful Los Angeles businessman, eventually so successful that
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they would become amongst high society. They moved to Beverly
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Hills and started living in the most exclusive places to
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live where people just ooze money. You know, you can
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look at them and tell they have money. But the
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reality was that Kitty did love New Jersey, where they
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moved from, and she wanted to stay there, but her husband,
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Jose was the head of the household and he was
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obviously the breadwinner, so her wants were really kind of moot.
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She had to do what her husband wanted to do,
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and I do like, based on the everything that I
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read that she kind of resented him for making her
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move away from what she loved so dearly. But rather
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than be a brat about it. She kept her chin
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held high and she remained his doting and supportive wife.
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At one point, Jose was even the head of Hurts,
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you know, the rental car company, and was famously known
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for hiring oj Simpson as the face of Hurts advertising.
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And you know, he'd be running and jumping into rental
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cars with that thousand watt smile. Although we all now
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know that, you know he was a low key beating
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the shit out of his wife behind the scenes, but
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that's another podcast. But he was the man back then,
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and he was going to be the face of Hurts.
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Jose then also at one point served as the head
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of RCA Records, and he oversaw the success of many
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recording artists, including the huge boy band of the time, Menudo,
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as well as the likes of Duran Duran. So the
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guy is in a position that is powerful and he's
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making a crapload of money. So at the time this
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case really took place, Jose was forty five and Kitty
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was a little bit older. She was forty seven, And
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while Jose was working, Kitty was a mom and a
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homemaker living at their estate. And like I said, super
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exclusive people had money and by all accounts, Jose wanted
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excellence not only for himself but as well as his boys,
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and so when they moved to that home in Calabasas, California,
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which by the way, was eight thousand square feet on
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fourteen acres, the kids were starting to be old enough
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to experience more and more. So this included sports. Lyle
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liked playing tennis, Eric liked soccer, and I get the
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feeling that Jose wanted them involved in some sort of
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structured sport to teach them what we all want our
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kids to learn in sports, responsibility as well as the
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ability to grow through practice and through loss and through
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hardship so that you can be a stronger person and
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you can learn that adversity is a good thing. It
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teaches us to grow. I know he wanted more for
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his boys than he had when he was a kid,
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and that's likely why he had high expectations of them, because,
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after all, I mean, he was giving them more than
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he ever had, which meant that they should be able
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to achieve more than he had, even though he was
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extremely successful, literally the American dream from rags to riches.
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So while he may have wanted excellence and success from
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his kids, he also had a wondering eye, and according
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to Kitty's psychologist that she was seeing he would testify
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to this too. In ninety three, Kitty was starting to
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have a really, really hard time once Jose hit this
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peak performance in the job, and that's because he was
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cheating on her. She had discovered his infidelity and she
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started coping the best way she could at the time,
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I guess, but she started drinking and she started taking
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pills to try to, I guess, cope with what was happening.
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How could Jose do this to her? After all she
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had sacrificed for their family. And I'm here to say this,
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money isn't everything. And I feel like Kitty gave up
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her dreams and she gave up her body to build
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a family with the man that she doted on. And
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the way that he decided to thank her was with
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betrayal by messing around with another woman. And by the way,
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this wasn't just a little like Oopsie, Daisy, I messed up.